Many marriage experts/counselors/therapists/hobbyists advocate the practice of couples regularly going out on dates. The idea is that intentionally taking time each week/month/quarter/solstice to focus on each other strengthens relationships. Now that we have a three-year-old, these date nights have become especially valuable — both to our marriage, and to our sanity.
Don’t get me wrong, we love being with Harrison, but any parent of a 3.5-year-old knows that they are masters in the art of chattering on forever. Sometimes the biggest advantage of a date night for couples with kids is simply having the opportunity to speak to your husband/wife for 30+ minutes without constant interruption from Chatty McGee.
Since Harrison’s cousins live nearby, he happily spent last Friday night with them and was none-the-wiser to our scheme to reclaim the elusive right to uninterrupted adult communication. We thought about going to see “Mission Impossible: 4”, but our mutual need for adult-only interaction caused us to change our plans. Instead, we decided to run by Target to pick up a cheap dice game called “Farkle” and take it to a local Starbucks to just hang out like we did in college. With the exception of having my rear-end handed to me on a platter by my very effective dice-tossing wife, we really enjoyed our night out.
And wouldn’t you know it, when we picked Harrison up the next morning he had a full car ride of new stories to tell us.